you can't spoil by cuddling up with kids!!!

[ahka]

I was at a baby shower, where one young mom told me that she doesn't want to spoil her 3 year old son by cuddling up with him. I, very politely, told her that there is no such thing as spoiling a child by love and cuddling.

I have heard such advices too when Mishka was born, "don't hold him, or you will spoil him." What a nonsense!!! One can not spoil by providing parental emotional warmth!!! Why do we have these advices??? For some reason, we tend to do it with boys more than with girls. Boys are the ones that need even more of emotional support when they are growing up. And we take this silly advice? No wonder men are having issues being man.

Comments

[lentochka.livejournal.com]

I completely agree. The more we love, kiss, cuddle and hug our children, then better they are off.

[agusovsky.livejournal.com]

I just wonder where did it come from? someone's ego-centrism (эгоизм)and laziness or from some popular Dr. I will need to review Dr.Spok advices.

[b-zambak.livejournal.com]

я считаю, что детей надо любить, ласкать, целовать особенно мальчиков. Пусть они знают любовь, пусть чувствуют себя надежнее и любимее рядом с нами. Мамы могут баловать мальчиков.

[agusovsky.livejournal.com]

я абсолютно согласна.

[sfuntik.livejournal.com]

i've also heard about no spoiling, but it referred to holding babies
I never understood that, and my comment to that always was- if you don't want to hold your own baby why would you have one.

[agusovsky.livejournal.com]

I totally agree. Plus, the more you hold them, the more calm they are.

[sfuntik.livejournal.com]

In fact I miss holding :(
Now since he is 3.5 and close to 40 lbs holding is just not the same

[http://users.livejournal.com/_milashka/]

agreed!