coming back home...
Nov. 10th, 2011 12:11 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
ahkaIt has been a week since I got back home from this amazing trip to Israel. I was in a wonderful mood and happy to go home see my husband, my kids and share my wonderful energy with them. As I walked into the house, my energy was stopped dead. It was a total mess in the house. There was a huge pile of dirty dishes in the sink, stuff, clothes, and toys all over the place. The house looked dark and sad. I just saw how much work is ahead of me. I was a little bit upset; I was upset at my husband, yet I swallowed my anger, and started straightening up the house, toy by toy, dish by dish.
In the process of cleaning and washing dishes, I realized that my husband was probably upset that I was on vacation without him and (I hope he is not going to be upset if I use this analogy)he was behaving just like dogs do when they are upset about being home alone and would sometimes mess up the house. I would have been as upset too if he would've gone on such a wonderful trip without me, I wouldn't mess the house but still... Also, I realized how important I Am in the house!!! When I am not home, it has no soul!
It took me all day of cleaning and cooking. I still had a jet leg. I crashed by 8:30pm. I offered my daughter to go to bed with me, because I had no more energy to deal with her night routine. She agreed but after lying with me for some time she got bored and was not sleepy yet, I allowed her to go downstairs and be with daddy and her brother.
My husband took care of putting kids to beds and I was grateful for his help. In the morning, I drove kids to the daycare and school, stopped at the grocery store and did some shopping, came home to finish cleaning and cooking that I started the other day. I made some French toast for my husband for breakfast and started to see and smell the light in the house. By this moment, I liked being in my clean house with wonderful smells of the food that I was making. I could see that if it was not for me, the house would’ve been dark and empty without a soul.
I tried and still trying to keep my excitement about the trip low key. As appropriate, I use some of my knowledge and introduce it to my husband and kids.
There were a few dramatic things that happened in 2 days after I got home that actually improved our relationship, one with my husband and one with my son.
In the process of cleaning and washing dishes, I realized that my husband was probably upset that I was on vacation without him and (I hope he is not going to be upset if I use this analogy)he was behaving just like dogs do when they are upset about being home alone and would sometimes mess up the house. I would have been as upset too if he would've gone on such a wonderful trip without me, I wouldn't mess the house but still... Also, I realized how important I Am in the house!!! When I am not home, it has no soul!
It took me all day of cleaning and cooking. I still had a jet leg. I crashed by 8:30pm. I offered my daughter to go to bed with me, because I had no more energy to deal with her night routine. She agreed but after lying with me for some time she got bored and was not sleepy yet, I allowed her to go downstairs and be with daddy and her brother.
My husband took care of putting kids to beds and I was grateful for his help. In the morning, I drove kids to the daycare and school, stopped at the grocery store and did some shopping, came home to finish cleaning and cooking that I started the other day. I made some French toast for my husband for breakfast and started to see and smell the light in the house. By this moment, I liked being in my clean house with wonderful smells of the food that I was making. I could see that if it was not for me, the house would’ve been dark and empty without a soul.
I tried and still trying to keep my excitement about the trip low key. As appropriate, I use some of my knowledge and introduce it to my husband and kids.
There were a few dramatic things that happened in 2 days after I got home that actually improved our relationship, one with my husband and one with my son.
