Thoughts abt my communication...

[ahka]

When I got back to the office from Jermain’s presentation, I got a few e-mails from several different organizations that I belong to and all of them were talking about importance of communication and listening. 

I started thinking to myself, what a coincidence?  I just got back from the speech about communication, I am worried about my presentation at the conference and here is more information about communication.  What are these messages trying to tell Me? 

I am actually a person who always listens and hardly ever anyone listens to me or even give me an opportunity to talk.  And when I feel like I have time to talk I get uncomfortable to talk about myself or my life.  I often force myself to talk during lunch at work. 

At times I even think that I have nothing to talk about.  I know that I am an introvert and if people don’t ask, I don’t usually tell, that’s probably why I have this LJ, to communicate or to learn to communicate more openly.  In some conversations, it takes time for me to start talking freely.  I am always cautious about what is appropriate to say and what is not.  I avoid gossip or talk about other people.  I don’t remember jokes or data information.   I am pretty good at asking questions and turning conversation to the opponent.

I am not sure how effective this LJ communication is because I am not sure that people actually read what I write in my LJ or if anyone has any interest in who I am and what I think.  I don’t blame anyone! 

I know that most of my friends don’t even know about my LJ. 

I know, I need to communicate more verbally with my friends and start actually talking instead of writing and listening all the time.   

I just thought, maybe I don’t speak a lot because no one asks me good questions?  Hm…  For example today, I told my parents that my proposal to present at the conference got approved.  They expressed their happiness for me but the only person asking me what my presentation is about was my 6 year old son.  I thanked him for actually asking the question.

Then in the evening I told Boris about it and he also did not even ask me what I plan to present.

So, in addition to listening, one must also learn to ask the other party questions that would lead to their story.