Lies and lying

[ahka]

What bothers me the most about the pre-election time, especially this year, is the number of rude lies that opposing candidates use to win the elections. 

In my personal world, lying is one of the worst things a person can do.  It feels like it is only my personal value.  When I hear those lies on the radio or TV, it literally hurts me and makes me sick!

Is it moral to lie? It seems that it is… because the conservatives who supposed to be THE MORAL ones use this tactic even more then the liberals do. I am not defending the liberals; I am very disturbed about lies from all sides!!!

Most of all, I hate when people lie to themselves and when they spread the rumors that are not true about others. It seems that lying is part of human nature. My 5 year old often would lie to me about simple things. For example, I would ask him “did you turn the lights off in your room?”  He will say “Yes” and I would pass by his room and see that he did not do it. I always confront him and tell him that he is lying not to me but to himself and that is the worst thing a person can do to himself is to distort reality when it is obvious.

I often see clients who literally live in the lies and do not see the reality of their situation. They create excuses that create more lies. I would advocate that people should stop lying to themselves and start making changes to make their false thinking reality (if it is positive for example).

I am simply teaching my son to be as true to himself as he could be and see things for what they are and not for what he wants them to be or does not want them to be. It creates critical and inquiring thinking. Is it true? Or where do I find the source of the truth? Can I trust this source?

It can start from the very simple things such as start listening to one’s own self and if for example you don’t feel good, you should just acknowledge “I don’t feel good, I have a headache, what can I do about it, etc…”.  Once we stop lying, we become more aware and able to take care of ourselves and find solutions to our problems and truly improve our lives. 

A.G.