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ahkaWednesday was a really long and eventful day. Well, the whole week and last month and this month
were pretty much like that. I got some rest when I got sick on Friday and Saturday and after that it was
again: run run run run run… The temp of my life is pretty intense and fast and I don’t know how to slow
it down.
On Wednesday, I was still in Duluth. Our conference ended at 11am and we had to pack, check out of
the hotel by noon. Our bus was supposed to arrive at 12 noon.
After I arrived from Duluth, I ended up helping my mom at the daycare. She injured herself while
cleaning the toys and had to go to the urgent care to get stitches on her leg. I didn’t know about it until I
arrived in Minneapolis. It was a crazy day and I was glad I slept a little on the bus.
I went home to change clothes and it was time to go to the event with Lori Palatnik and her husband at
JCC. On Wednesdays, we usually have our study group at my house and this time my sister was here
too. We moved our class to the event. I left kids to my husband, drove over to pick up girls and we
drove to JCC. At the event we met a lot of people we know.
Lori and her husband Rabbi Palatnik were talking about parenting. They are excellent speakers and use
humor a lot! We were laughing and laughing. After the lecture we discussed it and agreed that they
didn’t teach us anything new but it is good to review and confirm. Some key points from their
presentation were:
Rabbi Palatnik gave an example about his son. Their son was messing up in school and not doing chores
at home. One day he comes home and tells about this great summer study program in Israel that is very
expensive bsw. Does he deserve to go on this trip? Probably not, but would it be good for him? Yes!
Would it possibly even help with those problems and make him more independent and responsible?
Yes!
If you want to be a good parent, think about characteristics of good and bad Director, Supervisor and
Consultant and act accordingly.
Lori gave a great example to proof her point. Imagine that your parents came home and said that for
your 16th birthday they bought you a brand new, top of the line, your favorite car. You are all excited
running out to look at it and it looks great only doesn’t have the wheels. What would be your reaction?
Of course, you can cry and scream and not be happy for the rest of your life and be upset at your mom
but you can also start working to make money to buy the wheels and make it work. So, parents give us
all the best to us that they can BUT NOT EVERYTHING. To get the rest we need to work on ourselves not
on blaming the parents for not giving it to us.
Do you have any stories?
were pretty much like that. I got some rest when I got sick on Friday and Saturday and after that it was
again: run run run run run… The temp of my life is pretty intense and fast and I don’t know how to slow
it down.
On Wednesday, I was still in Duluth. Our conference ended at 11am and we had to pack, check out of
the hotel by noon. Our bus was supposed to arrive at 12 noon.
After I arrived from Duluth, I ended up helping my mom at the daycare. She injured herself while
cleaning the toys and had to go to the urgent care to get stitches on her leg. I didn’t know about it until I
arrived in Minneapolis. It was a crazy day and I was glad I slept a little on the bus.
I went home to change clothes and it was time to go to the event with Lori Palatnik and her husband at
JCC. On Wednesdays, we usually have our study group at my house and this time my sister was here
too. We moved our class to the event. I left kids to my husband, drove over to pick up girls and we
drove to JCC. At the event we met a lot of people we know.
Lori and her husband Rabbi Palatnik were talking about parenting. They are excellent speakers and use
humor a lot! We were laughing and laughing. After the lecture we discussed it and agreed that they
didn’t teach us anything new but it is good to review and confirm. Some key points from their
presentation were:
- Do what is good for the kids and not what they deserve!!! What does it mean?
Rabbi Palatnik gave an example about his son. Their son was messing up in school and not doing chores
at home. One day he comes home and tells about this great summer study program in Israel that is very
expensive bsw. Does he deserve to go on this trip? Probably not, but would it be good for him? Yes!
Would it possibly even help with those problems and make him more independent and responsible?
Yes!
- Ask G-d “Dear G-d, give me what’s good for me!” Not what I deserve.
- With small kids parents act in the role of a Director;
- With teenagers in the role of Supervisors;
- With adults in the role of Consultant;
If you want to be a good parent, think about characteristics of good and bad Director, Supervisor and
Consultant and act accordingly.
- We should not blame our parents and our children should not blame us.
Lori gave a great example to proof her point. Imagine that your parents came home and said that for
your 16th birthday they bought you a brand new, top of the line, your favorite car. You are all excited
running out to look at it and it looks great only doesn’t have the wheels. What would be your reaction?
Of course, you can cry and scream and not be happy for the rest of your life and be upset at your mom
but you can also start working to make money to buy the wheels and make it work. So, parents give us
all the best to us that they can BUT NOT EVERYTHING. To get the rest we need to work on ourselves not
on blaming the parents for not giving it to us.
- Pay attention to the daily stories that we feel G-ds hand and discuss with kids and others.
Do you have any stories?
