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Адаhaн М. пишет: "Что такое сумасшествие: неконструктивное, бессмысленное поведение.  Оно ничему не служит и причиняет вред" стр.136

Я проверила словари на интернете и не увидела похожего тонкого определения как это.  Как часто мы делаем что-то бессмысленное от чего потом страдаем?  Сколько время мы проводим у телевизоров смотря какую-то чушь и даже не задумываясь это чушь или нет?  Иногда мы даже читаем книги, которые лучше не читать.  Сколько время люди проводят в играх на компьютере?  Наркотики и алкоголь? А уже футболисты, хоккеисты и др. профессиональные спортсмены, а особенно фанаты-болельщики... зачем они это делают?  какой в этом смысл?  Всему есть место если в этом есть для нас смысл.  Даже поиграть в игру на компьютере чтобы передохнуть от работы пару минут, или заниматься футболом или хоккеем для физического развития но как долго и интенсивно? оно всасывает и мы теряем зря дорогущее время, которое уходит и уже не вернуть вместе с здоровьем и силами, а иногда даже и любимых людей, детей.

А если эту тему протолкнуть дальше?  Люди которые мстят, часто за личную обиду о которой другой даже и не знает.  Сколько время мы проводим предсказывая будущее в негативной форме (пример: "они меня всё равно завалят на экзамене") или проигрываем какие-то диалоги которые негативно на нас влияют.

Мы все иногда себя ведём как сумасшедшие на автопилоте не используя наш разум. Адаhaн М. рекомендует чтоб мы занимали себя мыслями только "которые делают нас благодарными, живыми, уверенными" Это включает: учится на ошибках, просить о помощи, работать над своими недостатками, учиться терпению, осознавать что трудности нам даны для того чтоб мы росли и мы должны быть благодарны за трудности и неприятности.  Всё что не делается, всё к лучшему!!!

Я когда была маленькая, я удивлялась что люди выбирали делать что-то плохое.  Я была уверенна что они знали о том что это плохо закончится.  Но, когда я выросла, я была удивлена, что эти люди не были такими прозорливыми как я в детстве.  Они по настоящему не задумывались о том к чему их поведение приведёт.  Это печально, но правда.  Так вот прежде чем мы что-то делаем, надо подумать к чему это приведёт?  К добру или злу?  и принимать решения сознательно беря на себя всю ответственность этого решения.

Аэробика Духа: пособие, как сохранить эмоциональное здоровье
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"Чем больше ваше сопротивление реальности, тем сильнее ваша боль." (М.Адахан, стр.85)

Аэробика Духа: пособие, как сохранить эмоциональное здоровье
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Ок, есть 20 минут времени, попробую описать поездку в Калифорнию.  Сама цель поездки была посетить American Counseling Association конференцию на которой выступал Доктор Ирвин Ялом.  Доктора Ялома я очень уважаю и одна из его книг вообще поменяли мою жизнь к лучшему.  Книга о которой я говорю называется Existential Psychotherapy, она очень толстая и довольно таки дорогая для книжки просто так почитать.  Вообще, я прочитала почти все его книги.  Сейчас дочитываю его последнюю книгу которая недавно только была опубликована The Spinoza Problem.

Во время учёбы, обычно по его книге учат о психотерапии групп.  Другие книги, почти все психологические новеллы о каких-то интересных философах как Ницце, Шопенхауере и Спинозе.  Читать очень интересно, особенно если человек связан с психотерапией с одной или другой стороны.

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Вчера всей семьёй пошли в библиотеку искать Мишке книжки которые ему будет интересно читать каждый день по 20 минут.  Я набрала несколько книжек из серии Magic Tree House которые мне самой понравилось читать, но Мишка на отказ не хотел брать не одной из них.  

Мишка взял себе большую книгу кулинарии с рецептами шоколадных десертов.  Он сказал что будет читать рецепты 20 минут и потом мы будем вместе с ним печь! :)

Когда мы пришли домой, он конечно просмотрел картинки шоколадных десертов и читать отказался даже ингредиенты что бы мы выяснили что у нас есть и чего у нас нет для десерта который ему понравился на картинке.

Ещё ему взяла одну книжечку из серии The Amazing Adventures of Nate Banks, он даже согласился, но когда начал читать, то это для детей по старше.  Этот герой в 6-ом классе и Мишка ещё не совсем на этом уровне.

Короче, книги про 39 Clues ему тоже не нравятся.  Так что будем дальше искать.  Сегодня напишу учителю и спрошу что он порекомендует.

В прошлом году он любил читать Diary of a wimpy kid, и сегодня я согласилась чтоб он опять читал одну из этих книг.  Он в прошлом году все 5 прочитал очень быстро и до сих пор любит крылатые фразы использовать.

А у вас есть какие-то рекомендации для 8 летнего мальчика, который любит спорт, шутки, факты, смешные фразы, разные карточки (Покаман и т.д.) но не любит читать книги?
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Вчера всей семьёй пошли в библиотеку искать Мишке книжки которые ему будет интересно читать каждый день по 20 минут.  Я набрала несколько книжек из серии Magic Tree House которые мне самой понравилось читать, но Мишка на отказ не хотел брать не одной из них.  

Мишка взял себе большую книгу кулинарии с рецептами шоколадных десертов.  Он сказал что будет читать рецепты 20 минут и потом мы будем вместе с ним печь! :)

Когда мы пришли домой, он конечно просмотрел картинки шоколадных десертов и читать отказался даже ингредиенты что бы мы выяснили что у нас есть и чего у нас нет для десерта который ему понравился на картинке.

Ещё ему взяла одну книжечку из серии The Amazing Adventures of Nate Banks, он даже согласился, но когда начал читать, то это для детей по старше.  Этот герой в 6-ом классе и Мишка ещё не совсем на этом уровне.

Короче, книги про 39 Clues ему тоже не нравятся.  Так что будем дальше искать.  Сегодня напишу учителю и спрошу что он порекомендует.

В прошлом году он любил читать Diary of a wimpy kid, и сегодня я согласилась чтоб он опять читал одну из этих книг.  Он в прошлом году все 5 прочитал очень быстро и до сих пор любит крылатые фразы использовать.

А у вас есть какие-то рекомендации для 8 летнего мальчика, который любит спорт, шутки, факты, смешные фразы, разные карточки (Покаман и т.д.) но не любит читать книги?
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I discovered Hennepin County Library eAudiobooks that are downloadable on-line.  It  took me 2 days to figure out how to move files into my phone and then stream through Bluetooth in the car.  Finally, it is working!!! (can’t wait to get back into my car).

The collection of books is not as desirable as I would’ve wanted, however I found some books that I would not read but would force myself to listen too.  I am still trying to figure out how to get license for some books.  I am able to download the book into my phone but then it tells me to go online and get the license and I have no clue how to do that.  I guess it will take me few more days to figure that one out unless someone can explain it to me.

I love technology  but get pretty frustrated with the complexity and in some cases illogical ways of connecting things.  Well, if we need something, we find ways to figure it out regardless of complexity.  I am determined to figure it out!

It is funny to me.  There are times that I don’t listen or read anything and get frustrated that there is nothing that interests me and then I get overloaded with interesting stuff that I don’t have time to process (same with LJ, I don’t write anything but then start writing about this and that and can’t stop).  So, now I got bunch of books waiting to be listened to, I started listening again to Victor Frenkle’s book Men’s Search for Meaning. It is my audio book that I bought long time ago.  It is so sad but very insightful.  I don’t think I could actually read it.  I am listening to it again and it sounds different from the time I listened to it before. 

I continue reading eBook War and Peace by Lev Tolstoy (on my phone while Michelle falls asleep).  I can’t wait to listen to Erich Fromm’s book that I would not read but would listen to The Art of Loving.  I have seen this book cited in so many places, I decided it is time to get to know it.  This is the one I can’t figure out how to get license to listen to it.

 Also, I am reading a book by Rollo May Man’s Search for Himself.  I started this book long time ago but had no time to continue.  This one is also the book that has been cited in many books I have read before.  In addition to all that I try to stay on top of reading weekly parshas of the Torah and be prepared for our Friday class.

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I discovered Hennepin County Library eAudiobooks that are downloadable on-line.  It  took me 2 days to figure out how to move files into my phone and then stream through Bluetooth in the car.  Finally, it is working!!! (can’t wait to get back into my car).

The collection of books is not as desirable as I would’ve wanted, however I found some books that I would not read but would force myself to listen too.  I am still trying to figure out how to get license for some books.  I am able to download the book into my phone but then it tells me to go online and get the license and I have no clue how to do that.  I guess it will take me few more days to figure that one out unless someone can explain it to me.

I love technology  but get pretty frustrated with the complexity and in some cases illogical ways of connecting things.  Well, if we need something, we find ways to figure it out regardless of complexity.  I am determined to figure it out!

It is funny to me.  There are times that I don’t listen or read anything and get frustrated that there is nothing that interests me and then I get overloaded with interesting stuff that I don’t have time to process (same with LJ, I don’t write anything but then start writing about this and that and can’t stop).  So, now I got bunch of books waiting to be listened to, I started listening again to Victor Frenkle’s book Men’s Search for Meaning. It is my audio book that I bought long time ago.  It is so sad but very insightful.  I don’t think I could actually read it.  I am listening to it again and it sounds different from the time I listened to it before. 

I continue reading eBook War and Peace by Lev Tolstoy (on my phone while Michelle falls asleep).  I can’t wait to listen to Erich Fromm’s book that I would not read but would listen to The Art of Loving.  I have seen this book cited in so many places, I decided it is time to get to know it.  This is the one I can’t figure out how to get license to listen to it.

 Also, I am reading a book by Rollo May Man’s Search for Himself.  I started this book long time ago but had no time to continue.  This one is also the book that has been cited in many books I have read before.  In addition to all that I try to stay on top of reading weekly parshas of the Torah and be prepared for our Friday class.

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Last week when we went to Macy's holiday display show, we ended up at the gift store.  We told our little girls that it was a museum, so they can't touch anything.  I couldn't fool Mishka, he knew it was a store.  He immediately found stuff that he needed.  One of the things was a book "Diary of a Wimpy Kid"  It was way overpriced there but I was impressed that my boy who just a few months ago hated reading asks me to buy him a book!

Of course, I didn't get that book at that store but when I got home I found on amazon set of 4 books with free shipping only for $30 while everywhere else it was $50+ and shipping.  So, I ordered those books.  Michael somehow knew all about those books and colors.  He even told me about a purple one that came out recently.  I knew that purple is not part of the set.  I thought that he will be disappointed that purple book is not there.  I told him that I ordered books only yesterday and luckily, they arrived today.

He had been reading all evening, then I got home after work and teaching ballet, even though I was tired, he asked me to read it to him and I agreed.  Then he read it to us.  He could not stop reading!!!  Finally, my boy found books he enjoys.  The book is funny and Mishka has a lot in common with the author.

I don't know if someone can recommend other books that kids enjoy reading?
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Last week when we went to Macy's holiday display show, we ended up at the gift store.  We told our little girls that it was a museum, so they can't touch anything.  I couldn't fool Mishka, he knew it was a store.  He immediately found stuff that he needed.  One of the things was a book "Diary of a Wimpy Kid"  It was way overpriced there but I was impressed that my boy who just a few months ago hated reading asks me to buy him a book!

Of course, I didn't get that book at that store but when I got home I found on amazon set of 4 books with free shipping only for $30 while everywhere else it was $50+ and shipping.  So, I ordered those books.  Michael somehow knew all about those books and colors.  He even told me about a purple one that came out recently.  I knew that purple is not part of the set.  I thought that he will be disappointed that purple book is not there.  I told him that I ordered books only yesterday and luckily, they arrived today.

He had been reading all evening, then I got home after work and teaching ballet, even though I was tired, he asked me to read it to him and I agreed.  Then he read it to us.  He could not stop reading!!!  Finally, my boy found books he enjoys.  The book is funny and Mishka has a lot in common with the author.

I don't know if someone can recommend other books that kids enjoy reading?
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It is almost 1am and something just keeps me up.  I don’t want to let go and sleep.  Well, I am sleepy but don’t want to lie down and close my eyes. 

My friend gave me two audio books to listen to.  One of them is by Dale Carnegie How to Stop Worrying and Start Living.  I was not very interested in that particular book but just out of nothing else to listen in the car I put it on.  I had to keep in mind that Carnegie wrote this book in 1940s.  He wrote it as a journalist who interviewed or read about big managers or business men about their worries and made common sense conclusions. 

Before I listened to it, I was curious why his name never came up in my counseling classes and listening to the style of writing or story telling I figured that his methods were not “research” based but more anecdotal.  However, some of his suggestions are more straight forward then some of the therapists and psychologists of last century.  Here is more information about the book and its conclusions! http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/How_to_Stop_Worrying_and_Start_Living  

I thought it was a very cute book.  Apparently, he was a pioneer in covering the topic of worries using practical examples from real life and real people.   The main conclusion was that worries can kill you!  Stop worrying can save your life! 

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It is almost 1am and something just keeps me up.  I don’t want to let go and sleep.  Well, I am sleepy but don’t want to lie down and close my eyes. 

My friend gave me two audio books to listen to.  One of them is by Dale Carnegie How to Stop Worrying and Start Living.  I was not very interested in that particular book but just out of nothing else to listen in the car I put it on.  I had to keep in mind that Carnegie wrote this book in 1940s.  He wrote it as a journalist who interviewed or read about big managers or business men about their worries and made common sense conclusions. 

Before I listened to it, I was curious why his name never came up in my counseling classes and listening to the style of writing or story telling I figured that his methods were not “research” based but more anecdotal.  However, some of his suggestions are more straight forward then some of the therapists and psychologists of last century.  Here is more information about the book and its conclusions! http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/How_to_Stop_Worrying_and_Start_Living  

I thought it was a very cute book.  Apparently, he was a pioneer in covering the topic of worries using practical examples from real life and real people.   The main conclusion was that worries can kill you!  Stop worrying can save your life! 

Harmony Theatre & School -- Children's theater in MN

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I am stingy about time. I can’t stand wasting time. Nowadays, technology allows us to do a lot
throughout each day. I am not even talking about washing machine, dishwasher, microwave, on-line
shopping, e-Billing, etc. I am now talking about resources through which you can learn.

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I am stingy about time. I can’t stand wasting time. Nowadays, technology allows us to do a lot
throughout each day. I am not even talking about washing machine, dishwasher, microwave, on-line
shopping, e-Billing, etc. I am now talking about resources through which you can learn.

Read more... )

Small Talk

Aug. 31st, 2010 05:30 pm
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I have never been a talkative person and in fact I used to be very shy and avoided communicating with people I didn’t know.  I would say I was as self-centered as an introvert could get.  It means very self-centered and inhibited!   I used to be scared to talk on the phone too.  I have improved a little but there is a lot more room to grow. 

 

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Small Talk

Aug. 31st, 2010 05:30 pm
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I have never been a talkative person and in fact I used to be very shy and avoided communicating with people I didn’t know.  I would say I was as self-centered as an introvert could get.  It means very self-centered and inhibited!   I used to be scared to talk on the phone too.  I have improved a little but there is a lot more room to grow. 

 

Read more... )

Harmony Theatre and School -- Children's theater in MN

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I finished reading When Nietzsche Wept by Yalom in January and had no time to write about this book. 

 

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I finished reading When Nietzsche Wept by Yalom in January and had no time to write about this book. 

 

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Finally finished reading Momma and the Meaning of Life: Tales of Psychotherapy by Irvin Yalom.  This book was very similar in format as Love’s Executioner.  It included several stories about psychotherapist ala Irvin Yalom and his experience with his various clients.  I love that stuff!!! 

The stories were fiction with some parts of the truth in them. 

The first story was about relationship between Irving and his mother.  In this story, he is trying to understand what was wrong between them after she was gone.  The point of the story was as I understood that we tend to accuse others and do not take time to understand each other and see OUR role in the broken relationship. 

Throughout Irvin’s life, his relationship with his mother was rocky and they did not communicate a lot.  In fact he tried to avoid her because he felt she was too critical of him when he was younger.  Now, that she was gone, she kept coming in his dreams and he missed her.  He realized that he was taking mom for granted.  She loved him very much and was ready to do anything for her very smart educated son! 

She was afraid to talk to him too, because he was too smart and because he “knew everything” people were afraid of him she thought.

The paradox was that he wrote books about existential issues including meaning of life, freedom, isolation, choices, etc.  His mom could not read the books because she was illiterate, but she carried his books with her and showed it off proudly to people in her community.  Irvin hated that!

Only later he realized that for his mom, He, Irvin, was meaning of her life!  However, he wanted her to have her own personal meaning that would not involve him. 

This point was somewhat controversial when I read this book.  Individualistic vs Collectivistic view.  I understand that in both we are born alone and die alone but throughout our life we are aiming at developing relationships with others.  The more successful relationships we build the more satisfying and meaningful our lives are!

From our Torah study on Monday, the ideal union between people is when they become one whole rather than being separate business partners with individualistic and egoistic interests!  Yes, both are unique pieces that by connecting together become one clear picture.

Irvin’s mother thought that He and His success, his books were meaning of her life because she worked all her life to support her son and other people in the family.  She did not have time to get education and think about her own personal individual meaning that was separate from her relatives.  People she took care of -- were her life!!!

Ok, I will talk about other parts of the book later.  Each part had something that I made a note about.

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Finally finished reading Momma and the Meaning of Life: Tales of Psychotherapy by Irvin Yalom.  This book was very similar in format as Love’s Executioner.  It included several stories about psychotherapist ala Irvin Yalom and his experience with his various clients.  I love that stuff!!! 

The stories were fiction with some parts of the truth in them. 

The first story was about relationship between Irving and his mother.  In this story, he is trying to understand what was wrong between them after she was gone.  The point of the story was as I understood that we tend to accuse others and do not take time to understand each other and see OUR role in the broken relationship. 

Throughout Irvin’s life, his relationship with his mother was rocky and they did not communicate a lot.  In fact he tried to avoid her because he felt she was too critical of him when he was younger.  Now, that she was gone, she kept coming in his dreams and he missed her.  He realized that he was taking mom for granted.  She loved him very much and was ready to do anything for her very smart educated son! 

She was afraid to talk to him too, because he was too smart and because he “knew everything” people were afraid of him she thought.

The paradox was that he wrote books about existential issues including meaning of life, freedom, isolation, choices, etc.  His mom could not read the books because she was illiterate, but she carried his books with her and showed it off proudly to people in her community.  Irvin hated that!

Only later he realized that for his mom, He, Irvin, was meaning of her life!  However, he wanted her to have her own personal meaning that would not involve him. 

This point was somewhat controversial when I read this book.  Individualistic vs Collectivistic view.  I understand that in both we are born alone and die alone but throughout our life we are aiming at developing relationships with others.  The more successful relationships we build the more satisfying and meaningful our lives are!

From our Torah study on Monday, the ideal union between people is when they become one whole rather than being separate business partners with individualistic and egoistic interests!  Yes, both are unique pieces that by connecting together become one clear picture.

Irvin’s mother thought that He and His success, his books were meaning of her life because she worked all her life to support her son and other people in the family.  She did not have time to get education and think about her own personal individual meaning that was separate from her relatives.  People she took care of -- were her life!!!

Ok, I will talk about other parts of the book later.  Each part had something that I made a note about.

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